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What Turns Women On? Warm Her Up This Winter!

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Tips to turn her on!

Get Cosy this Winter!

As long as there have been women on earth, men have been asking the same question: what turns women on? With the cold air settling around us, it’s natural to want to keep things heated in the bedroom! Who wouldn’t want to spend a night in bed, skin to skin with your partner, keeping the chills at bay?  But sometimes the reality is that ladies and gents just aren’t the same when it comes to getting in the mood. What turns women on? There isn’t really a way to just turn her on like a lightbulb. Guys, that means you may have to initiate the excitement to keep your lady sexually interested. Here are some tips to warm her up before trying your luck in bed.

Start the seduction

Anticipation can be one of the most amazing tools in your box of aphrodisiacs. Send her three or four texts throughout the day, telling her what you are going to do to her in the evening. Tell her how attractive she is, that she turns you on, and then tell her you like it when she does “X”.  (“X” is the thing that is unique to her, and her alone, so that she knows your lines aren’t generic.)
"The suspense is terrible... I hope it will last."

Don’t get put off if she does not respond right away or even at all. Just keep going. This shows her you are comfortable being sexual and she can be too!

Touch her, but not like that

Seriously, guys! Many women want physical contact, but they want it in a different way than most men. They want to hold hands. Maybe a casual back tickle or absentmindedly playing with their hair. They want simple acts of physical intimacy. Steer clear of full-on PDA, but just a simple, quick touch. You want to show her intimacy when the connection to sex isn’t so obvious. Simply put, don’t wait until bedtime to do your handholding.

Turn her on. Tease her in public

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I’m not talking high school teasing, like hair-pulling. I’m talking about being covertly inappropriate and a little bit naughty while out in public. While sitting across the table from friends, talking about politics or mundane life happenings, slide your fingers up her thigh and just around her underwear line.

Do this for about 15 seconds and then remove your hand. Do a few of these in a night to turn her on, or dare her to wear a pair of secretive and sultry vibrating panties to touch and control her pleasure with a single click.  She’ll attack you as soon as you set foot inside your home.

Rev up the romance

Your babe just had a long day at work. Maybe, she’s been on the go since 6AM and is in desperate need of a break. Nothing like surprising the woman you love with a home-cooked meal and a glass of wine to help her unwind. Not only will she appreciate your gesture, but she’ll also feel closer and more connected to you. And intimacy is always a good start.


"Love is spending time together..." 
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Wet and wild shower scene

Occasionally, you’ll need to jumpstart the sex. Taking a shower together before jumping into bed is a subtle and intimate yet steamy way to turn her on. Seeing each other’s naked bodies, and having body parts brush up against each other in the shower, usually leads to more than just a good cleaning. Get her wet in more than one way when you add a clitoral vibe to the mix. Waterproof, discreet and versatile - this is sure to enhance the shower fun. And on a winter night, can you picture a better way to warm up?

Set the scene

Set your bedroom up with surprise candles and rose petals in bed. It creates a cozy yet romantic atmosphere that is sure to get her ready to jump into bed with you. Yes, this may be over the top for some, but take a leap of faith, and you won’t regret it! Excite her senses even more with an erotic massage candle, that is specially formulated to melt at a lower temperature - so it can be poured all over her body and then slowly massaged in. 


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Slow down the rhythm

Nothing turns her on more than when a man slowly touches a woman all over her body. Start with a light massage of the feet, working up the leg to the inner portion of the thighs. Moving on to caressing the sides of the torso and ending by brushing her back and neck with your lips, or a delicate feather tickler. There are no words to describe this.

Cuddle and spoon

Body heat is the best way to keep warm when the air outside is chilly, and sometimes it’s about laying the groundwork. While cuddling may not always lead to sex, it’ll still bring both of you closer and connect each other intimately. But who knows, your bodies may just fall into a position that may bring about arousal and get the action started.
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Keep those bedroom windows misted up with these winter warming gestures and sexy subtleties to cozy up next to your special someone. Yes, it is a little soft and cuddly BUT this kind of romance can really turn your night into something delicious. If you take the time to warm her up with cute and thoughtful gestures, you’re more likely to see the naughty side of her come out to play. So set up a night that starts slowly and ends off steamy!