How to use a Vibrator - Sex Toy 101

How to Use a Vibrator - Sex Toys 101

It seems like it would be obvious, right? Feels silly to ask the girls over lunch what a lady is actually supposed to do with her battery-powered pal. And yet, it’s not always that obvious.

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A Guide on Using your Vibe
Get the most out of your favourite toy

Do you know how to use your vibrator? It seems like it would be obvious, right? Feels silly to ask the girls over lunch what a lady is actually supposed to do with her battery-powered pal. And yet, it’s not always that obvious. Let's chat about getting the most out of your new vibrator.

Making Quality Sexy-Time

With clean hands, unpack your vibrator from its packaging and look it over carefully. Put in the batteries (make sure they’re in the right way), or plug it in to charge. Apply some quality lube, and you're ready for launch sequence! You might be in a rush, but wait up!

First, check any instructions that come with it, including how to clean it, whether it’s waterproof, and how the setting buttons work. For example, some vibes have fewer buttons so you use a long press or a short press depending on what you want to do. That's useful information!

Set the Mood

You’ll want some quiet time to yourself. Get yourself comfortable and make sure you won’t be interrupted. You might want to read a little erotica, look at pictures or watch a movie to get into the right mood.

Explore Your New Vibrator

Switch your vibrator on and gently run it along your arm, across your tummy, and up your leg. Just get a feel for the vibrations. If it has different settings, try out how they feel on your skin. Remember, some parts of your body will be more sensitive to vibration than others, so try it in different places. Take your time. Get to know the different settings and speeds of your vibrator, and how they feel against your skin.

Your vibrator may be shaped such that there is a ‘pointed’ area and a flatter area. Experiment with how the vibrations feel depending on whether you are placing the point or the flat against your skin.

Everyone is different. Some women like strong, fast vibrations. Others only get to climax with a slow, gentle buildup. You’ll get to know your body more and more, but for now just try out the different options and note which make you feel nicest.

When you’re feeling ready, direct the vibrator towards your genitals. You might want to start with underwear on, or even fully clothed, and see how strong the vibrations feel. If the lowest setting on your vibrator still feels quite strong, keeping panties or a towel between the vibrator and your clit can help a lot. Explore the whole area with your vibrator.

Run it along the insides of your thighs, press it against your labia. Let the different sensations build you up. There’s no need to just keep it in one place. And if you have a G-Spot or rabbit vibrator, that doesn’t mean you have to use it internally every time. You can use it externally and then insert it if the mood takes you.


A lot of women find that some settings on their vibrators are great for external use but not so great internally, and vice-versa. Change up your settings to find out what works best for you. Remember, you don’t have to orgasm the first time you use your vibrator. You’re just getting to know how to use a vibrator in the way that works best for you. You may find that you want a lube, even if using the vibrator externally only. If you’re using an internal vibrator, definitely lube it up to make it more comfortable.

Power Hour

Different vibrators have different strengths, as well as a range of settings. Small bullet vibrators tend to work on button batteries or small batteries, and do not have powerful vibrations.

But because they’re ‘pointed’ and all the vibration is directed at one area – usually your clit – they can have a powerful effect anyway. You may need to try different vibration settings to find the one(s) that work best to get you going, and then take you all the way.

Remember, what feels like a light vibration in your hand may feel quite sensational when it’s pressed against your bits. Many women like to start with a lighter setting and then turn it up as they get more turned on. Experimenting will help you find the perfect speed and timing for you.


Bring a Friend

If you have a partner, invite them to take charge of your vibrator and see what they can discover that maybe you hadn’t... Above all, have fun. Your vibrator is meant to bring you pleasure, and it will do just that if you relax and enjoy yourself.

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