Everything You Need to Know About Anal Sex Toys
Never in recent history has butt play been talked about so transparently. Exploring with a new anal sex toy is a lot of fun, but the most essential part of making the experience pleasurable is education. Education empowers you to experience new and exciting things while also allowing you to know exactly what to expect, which is a big determining factor in how much fun you will be able to have.
Here at Matilda's, we like to make sure you have all the information you need to make an informed decision, so we have put this list together to walk you through different types of booty toys and everything you need to know about choosing the right anal toy for you or your partner.
What are they?
Butt plugs are designed to be inserted into the bum for sexual pleasure. They are in some ways similar to dildos. However, the design of butt plugs are different from that of dildos: plugs are shorter and have a flanged end to keep the plug in place. Basically, a plug has been designed to stay in for the duration of use, whereas a dildo is used to simulate intercourse (the in and out motion).
Should I give it a go?
Definitely! The anus has a high concentration of nerve endings, so even shallow insertions feel delicious. Inserting a plug during sex feels great for a woman! Plugs provide an incredible feeling of fullness and make orgasmic contractions feel stronger and more intense. A female wearing a plug is also pleasurable for a male partner during intercourse, as it creates a subtle pressure on his shaft. Plugs can arouse the prostate too (located up the front wall of the anus), which when stimulated, produces orgasms more intense than those from penile stimulation alone.
Is it safe to use?
Absolutely. The flanged end ensures that the plug will stay firmly in place. Some people even walk around wearing a butt plug when they're out and about – to make trips to the supermarket more pleasurable, one would assume. So yes, they are entirely safe to use.
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What are they?
Anal beads are a set of beads or balls, attached by a flexible material, and usually in a series from small to large, making them easier to insert. Anal beads are worn during playtime or lovemaking and then pulled out at various speeds depending on what sort of effect you are looking to achieve. Usually, this is done just at the point of climax to intensify orgasm.
Who can use anal beads?
Everyone! Anal beads can be used solo or with a partner, by a man or a woman (although it may be more intense for a man because of their prostate). Beads are a great introduction to anal sex for beginners, as they can show you how pleasurable anal play can be. Anal beads also come in various sizes, perfect for beginners or the more experienced.
Why should I try anal beads?
The anus has many nerve endings and the sensations caused by anal beads being pulled out, one by one, can maximise arousal. Put simply: anal beads will make you feel really good, and they can help you orgasm faster and harder. Anal beads are particularly recommended for beginners because you can insert as many beads as you feel comfortable with, giving your body time to adjust to the sensations.
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These are our favourite beginner anal beads, based on quality and customer feedback.
For Those Good Vibrations
What are anal vibrators?
Unlike plugs and probes, anal vibrators are designed to produce a variety of sensations, with a range of movements. They rotate, vibrate, and pulse – all at different speeds. Anal vibes have very powerful motors to ensure that vibrations are able to travel through the strong muscles of the rectum and sphincter. Although good for men and women, men find them particularly pleasing since they deliver great sensations straight to the prostate (the male G-spot).
What different types are available?
You can choose from vibrating prostate massagers, anal beads, probes, and even vibrating butt plugs. What you choose will be determined by what you like. Men might prefer vibrating prostate massagers, while vibrating anal probes are often small and slim enough for both experienced users and novices.
How are they different to normal vibrators?
These toys have been designed specifically for anal stimulation. They are generally smaller and slimmer than vaginal vibrators, which means they can be used in the bum safely. Anal vibrators also have a flanged base, which eliminates the potential for the toy to disappear in the body.
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Here are the vibes we can suggest based on customer feedback:
For incredible male orgasms
What's the big deal about the prostate?
Ah, great question. Prostate orgasms are a lot more intense than the orgasms you experience from just penile stimulation, so it's worth knowing where and what this little love button is!
Where can I Find my P-Spot?
The prostate is a male gland that is roughly the size and shape of a walnut. Located in just beneath the bladder and in the front of the rectum, the prostate can be stroked and massaged during sex, which will give the man super intense and powerful orgasms. So powerful, in fact, that it is even known as the male G-spot!
What is a Prostate Massager?
A prostate massager is designed to slip up the rectum and massage this very spot. The toys' shape is similar to a finger and has a slightly curved head to reach the gland. Some prostate massages vibrate for extra sensations.
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What is an anal probe?
Although we've put probes in the beginner's guide to anal toys, this is a toy that is enjoyed for its versatility: it can be used for anal, vaginal, and clitoral stimulation – basically, the trifecta of awesomeness. A probe is like a small, slender vibrator or dildo but with a tapered tip and smooth body. Some vibrate, others do not. They are much longer than vibrators to allow for deeper stimulation of the prostate and G-spot.
What would I use it for?
Great for men (prostate stimulation) and women (G-spot stimulation), the probe is a toy for all occasions. Their sleekness is perfect for replicating the movement of intercourse, and probes come in a variety of shapes, sizes, and materials based on your needs. It's the perfect toy to pinpoint the pleasure zones of men and women.
Prostate Cock Ring?
Cock rings are magical little creations. They are worn around the base of the penis to restrict blood flow away from your erection, resulting in a more rigid and more prolonged erection and even increased stamina. They are also available in many materials, shapes and sizes and can be worn during sex to enhance both solo and/or your partner play.
We recently created a list of See Our Favourite Cock Rings to help you choose.
There are also vibrating cock rings, which perform the same function as their non-vibrating counterpart and provide you with incredible vibrations that both you and your partner can enjoy.
The all essentials
Why an anal Kits?
Anal play can be a little intimidating if it is something you have never tried before. But if you are looking at giving it a whirl, Anal Training Kits are the perfect way to start.
What is in an Anal Kit?
There are many types of kits out there, but most kit comes with 3 different sized butt plugs to work your way up to some more exciting toys. Some even come with a sample water based anal lube and an anal douche making sure your experience is comfortable and hygienic.
Soon you will be well on your way to more advanced anal toys.
What is Anal Douching?
Though many of us might identify the term ‘douche’ as derogatory slang, the meaning of the word actually derives from a Latin word meaning ‘pour by drops’. This is a more accurate nomer since douching is the act of sending a pressurized jet of water into either the vagina or bum for the purpose of cleansing. While douching was once primarily promoted for vaginal hygiene, it is now popular for cleansing the anus before engaging in backdoor pleasuring.
Should I Douche and How Often?
Anal douching is a matter of personal preference. Some couples might prefer a planned, prepped, and more tidy exchange (though no matter how well you douche, bits of feces are still likely to sneak out), while others thrive on the raunch of a spontaneous experience. Then there are some who find the prep as stimulating as the sharing itself!
Regardless, it is important not to over do it when it comes to anal douching. Limit your rectal rinsing to a maximum of 2-3 times per week, and make sure you’re not being too aggressive. The anus consists of beneficial bacteria along with very sensitive tissue that you want to keep healthy and happy for future adventuring!
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These are our favourite anal douche and hygiene products, based on their quality and customer feedback.
For Comfort & Next-Level Pleasure
Should I Use Anal Lube?
Plenty of lube is always essential when it comes to playing in this region – so why not use a long-lasting anal lube? We think you’ll be pleasantly surprised at how much more comfortable and sexy backdoor sensations can feel with anal-specific lubricants.
Anal Lube Vs Water-Based Lube?
Anal lubes are thicker than water-based lubricants, more slippery, and last longer, taking anal play to a whole new level, as they keep slick the entire time. The viscosity of the anal lube also helps to protect delicate tissue in and around your bum. Anal lube works well with steel or glass toys – however, you MUST switch to water-based when using any silicone toys.
Here's A Pro-Tip!
Bottom line, lube is fantastic and If you haven't yet stocked up on a bottle yet, for next-level pleasure, we recommend choosing a quality lubricant for anal play. Anal lubes are thicker, more slippery, and much longer-lasting so it takes anal play to a whole new level. Check out our handy Lube Beginners Guide for some good Lube 101!
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These are our favourite beginner anal lubes, based on quality and customer feedback.
- Pjur Analyse Me | Comfort Water Anal Glide
- Pjur Analyse Me Silicone Glide
- Pjur Back Door | Comfort Water Anal Glide
"Anal sex feels more intense to me and just activates all my pleasure inducing nerve endings. I feel so much closer to my partner."