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Beginners Guide to Lubricants

Step into the world of personal lube where pleasure meets comfort. Understand the basics & find out why it's a must-have in every intimate toolkit.

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Welcome to your very own guide to navigating the world of Personal Lubricants. From adding a sensual touch to your intimate moments to ensuring utmost comfort, lubricants can truly elevate your experience. If the word ‘lube’ immediately paints a greasy picture in your head, fret not!

We’re here to provide you with a comprehensive guide to understanding and choosing the perfect lube. Let's dive into the slick world of lubes and find the perfect fit for you.

What is lube?

Let’s start with the basics. Lube, short for lubricant, is a substance designed to reduce friction, making surfaces glide more smoothly against each other.  Think of it as a trusty sidekick on your sensual adventures, ensuring everything runs silky smooth. Whether it's sexual intercourse, masturbation, or the use of sex toys, it can make intimate activities more enjoyable and can also help prevent minor injuries or discomfort that can come from friction.

The best part?
There's a vast variety for everybody and activity. Water-based, silicone, oil... the list goes on!

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Why use lube?

Well, to put it simply: things go smoother with lube! It enhances pleasure, prevents discomfort, and makes intimate moments even more memorable. Lube is not just for those who "need" it but for anyone who wants to elevate their experiences.

But don’t take our word for it – the research speaks for itself. A study of more than 2,000 women found that lube increased pleasure for solo sex, penile-vaginal sex, and penile-anal sex – whether they suffered from vaginal dryness or not. Now, while it might seem like all fun and games (and trust us, there’s plenty of that), safety is paramount.

Not all lubricants play well with all materials, or even all skins for that matter. But don't worry; we’re here to guide you through those nitty-gritty details with care.

7 types of lube
& When to Use Them

Diving into the world of lubricants can feel like being a kid in a candy store: so many options, so many flavors, and each one promises a unique experience! Buckle up (or should we say, "slide in"?) and let's explore the diverse types of lubes out there.

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The Jack-of-all-Trades

Water-Based Lube

Perfect for beginners & versatile for various activities, water-based lubes are easy to clean & safe with most toys and condoms. They might dry out quicker, but hey, reapplying is half the fun, isn't it?

When to use:
Whenever you're in doubt, this is your go-to. Great for solo fun, with a partner, and for most toys.

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The Marathon Runner

Silicone-Based Lube

Want something that lasts? Silicone-based lubes have got your back. Resistant to being washed away, they're the champs of extended playtimes, like in the shower or bathtub. But they're not always besties with silicone toys.

When to use:
For long-lasting fun & water adventures. Just be cautious with silicone toys.

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The Smooth Operator

Oil-Based Lube

Rich, thick, and luxuriously smooth, these lubes offer a different kind of glide. They're fantastic for some types of external play, but remember, they can break down latex condoms. Safety first!

When to use:
and certain external activities. Avoid with latex products.

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The Gentle Embrace

Sensitive Skin Lubes

Navigating the world of lubricants with sensitive skin? Fret not! Sensitive skin lubes are specifically formulated to be gentle, ensuring you can enjoy intimate moments without the worry of irritation.

When to use:
Whenever your skin feels delicate or you're prone to reactions. Perfect for those who prioritize skin care even in the heat of the moment.

The Tasty Tease

Flavored Lube

Turning up the fun factor, flavored lubes can make certain activities taste delicious. From strawberries to chocolate, the world is your oyster... or dessert!

When to use:
Oral adventures and anytime you fancy a flavorful twist.

The Sensation Seeker

Warming & Tingling Lube

Looking for a little extra sensation? These lubes add a warming or tingling effect that can send shivers down your spine in all the right ways.

When to use:
When you want to spice things up and explore different sensations.

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The Specialized Star

Anal Play Lube

Specifically designed for backdoor fun, these lubes are typically thicker, ensuring a comfortable and smooth experience with your favourite anal sex toy.

When to use:
Anytime the focus is on the rear end.

With Your Lube

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Lube You Vibes

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We get asked this a lot. People want to know if baby oil, petroleum jelly or massage oils are safe to use as sexual lubricants. The short answer is no. Not even a little bit! Firstly, it can degrade the latex structure of condoms, which could affect the strength and structure of the condoms, or result in the condom breaking. Secondly, these products can upset the natural Ph balance of your body, increasing the chance of infection. There are some exceptions, but in general, it's not as safe. We suggest: Use the right lubricant instead!

Definitely use water-based lubricant if you're using different toys. Silicone breaks down silicone, so if you use a silicone-based lubricant with your silicone toy, it can harm the surface of your toy. Water-based lubricant is definitely the best lube for sex toys that are soft. If you are using glass or steel toys, it's safe to use any lube that you like.

Yes, they often do! Flavoured lubes are a great way to add an extra element of play to oral sex, but they do contain sugar. Sorry! But worry not about your sugar diet - just make sure you are not prone to yeast infections - as sugar promotes yeast growth. Glycerin can have the same effect, so either make sure you wash properly afterwards or stick to a normal lubricant for intercourse. Keep the flavoured lube for oral sex experiences!

The anus and rectum are not self-lubricating, which means that for anal sex to be comfortable and pleasurable, a lubricant is required. While you could use any lube, anal lube is specifically designed to be thicker (as the skin in the rectum and anus is thinner), so it offers more protection and lasts longer. It eliminates friction and dryness and moistens the surrounding tissue to allow for comfy stretching. Oh, and it makes the use of condoms safer too. Win win win, all round!

Products like coconut oil (and others) can be used as effective lubricants, but we wouldn't suggest it, because coconut oil can disrupt your vagina's pH balance. This could lead to yeast infections, etc. People often get confused because the natural products (like coconut oil) are said to be "antibacterial" or "anti-fungal" which sounds great! However, this isn't good for your vagina. Also - many of these products contain food-grade stabilisers, which aren't always good for your private bits! They can also stain bed-linen. Get the right stuff

Delay sprays or lubricants are used by men to help them last longer. These products contain a special ingredient called benzocaine. Benzocaine is commonly found in over-the-counter creams used to treat pain, because it has a mild numbing effect that assists men who battle with premature ejaculation. We suggest that you use these lubricants with a condom, otherwise your partner may also experience numbing effects.

We would recommend so. Did you know that warming lubes usually contain capsaicin - the same thing found in peppers! Of course, the amount used in lubricants is so very tiny, that it barely registers in the same way. It's just enough to warm your bits! Women can be more sensitive to this than men, so try out a small amount first to see how your body likes it. Cooling lubricants contain mint or menthol - again in very small quantities. And again, women can be more sensitive to this than men. Try them out to see how your body responds.

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Quality Water-Based Lube

YES lubricant is the perfect substitute for the body's own lubrication. The natural ingredients give you that perfect slick and silky feel, longer lovemaking and a velvety finish free of synthetic ingredients.