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May 07, 2018

How to Become an Amazing Lover

Masturbate regularly!

The secret to being an absolutely amazing lover is a simple, and fun, one. The trick is to masturbate regularly, and encourage your partner to masturbate too. That’s right, just bring yourself to orgasm often. Use some fun masturbation sex toys to help you spice things up, and, this May, have the best masturbation month ever!

Learn Your Pleasure

The trick to making masturbation work for you as a lover is to love yourself. Don’t just go for the same old tricks every time, and don’t try to push yourself into a ‘quickie’.

Treat yourself to the time and effort you’d show a partner. Try new things, add in different toys and enhancers. Heck, start things off with a romantic movie and an erotic bath if you feel like it. Why not? If you can learn to give yourself this kind of attention and pleasure, you’ll certainly get better at doing it for a partner.

Plus, you really do deserve it, and believing that you deserve pleasure is just as important a part of being a good lover as believing your partner does. Get to know your body and how it responds to different stimuli. Find out all the different ways you can orgasm (trust us, there are many), and the different ways your body behaves while you’re building up to and experiencing orgasm. Touch yourself all over, in the places you know you like to be touched, and in places you are hardly ever touched. Figure out which work best for you.

Masturbate to Understand Your Orgasm

When you know your body and you’re relaxed about how it responds, you can understand just what turns you on and what turns you off. You can confidently communicate that to a partner, making it so much easier for them to give you pleasure. You can help your partner by guiding their hands, toys or other body parts to the places you like to be touched. You can use your own hands to help them too. This not only makes sex easier, it makes it a hell of a lot sexier too. And when you do this, you give your partner permission, and confidence, to do the same.

The Sexiest Foreplay

As a confident masturbator, you’ll know that watching your partner masturbate, and having them watch you, is both incredibly sexy and a wickedly easy way to get to know exactly how to be the best lover they’ve ever had. Watching someone masturbate gives you an immediate understanding of what turns them on best, and how they like to build up to orgasm. Plus, it’s a great way to get in the mood for partnered sexy time. So now you know the best way to practice being an amazing lover... What are you waiting for? Go get 'em, tiger!

More reasons to engage in self love

Still not convinced? Masturbating will not only make you a better lover, but it will also make you healthier and happierall round. Check out these health benefits:

  • Masturbating releases endorphins that help to relieve stress. It also reduces sexual tension, giving you even more stress relief.
  • The release of cortisol from orgasm improves your immune system, and protects you against nasties like the common cold.
  • Regular orgasm improves the strength of your pelvic floor muscles, which can helps to prevent incontinence (in men and women) and erectile dysfunction in men.
  • During orgasm, the uterus contracts repeatedly, and then relaxes. This can help to ease menstrual cramps. Doctors recommend you try masturbating during your period if you're suffering from uncomfortable cramping.
  • Orgasms cause the release of dopamine and epinephrine into your system. These improve your mood and help to combat depression.
  • The dopamine also helps you to get to sleep, and improves the quality of your sleep.
  • Regular exercise of your pelvic muscles, and the 'clearing' of semen and mucus in the pelvic area, may help to prevent cervical and prostate cancer.
  • Masturbating improves your sex life: studies show that having sex more often makes you want more sex. So masturbating actually encourages you to have more sex with your partner.
  • Regular masturbation increases your ability to reach orgasm. You get to know your body better. The more you masturbate to orgasm, the more you 'train' your body to build up to orgasm, as well as training your brain to respond positively to the right sexy stimulation.
  • And finally, masturbating improves your stamina so that sex with a partner can go on for longer before you both collapse in a quivering heap of joyful sleepiness.
Luckily for you, we have a load of really fun toys that can help you reach masturbation heaven. From male masturbators to vibrators to even just lube, here at Matilda's, we have it all. Now, go masturbate! 

 



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