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Lubricant for Better Sex

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For the Matilda’s team, lubricant is one of those things we don’t even think about that much. We all keep a good stock in our own toykits, and we wouldn’t consider being without it. And not just one kind: different lubes are best for different uses, so a range of options is always good. We’re lucky, here at Matilda’s, because we can choose from some of the best lubricants on the market. We realise that you might be looking puzzled at this point, and thinking “I picked up some brand name lube at the supermarket the other day. It seems fine. Why would I need to buy these fancy lubes from you guys?”

‘Cause we want your money of course. Hahahaha. No, really, we tell you to buy these ‘fancy’ lubes because they are truly much better than the brand name ones you can pick up at the shops. If you’ve never tried them, we’re not surprised you don’t know the difference. Once you do, you’ll never go back. And, honestly, they’re not expensive because the quality is so much better. You could go through a whole tube of ‘cheap’ lube in one or two sexy sessions, but a high-quality silicone lube will last for ages.

Choosing a Lubricant

So how do you figure out which lube is best for the occasion? It’s not too difficult.

Silicone lubricant is usually smooth and long-lasting. It’s also waterproof. That’s important, because it means you can use it in the bath, shower or hot tub. It’s also important because it’s not easily absorbed into the skin, and has to be washed off properly when you’re done, or you’ll be left with a bit of a sticky mess. Silicone toys don’t play well with silicone lubricant.

Use silicone lubricant for:

  • Sex in watery settings
  • Long and/or rough sex play
  • Anal sex
Don’t use silicone lubricant for:
  • Sex in a setting where you can’t clean off afterward
  • Sex that includes silicone toys

Water-based lubricant is easily absorbed into your skin. That means it only lasts for a short time. It’s usually less sticky than silicone lubricant, and it doesn’t have to be washed off when you’re done. It disappears in water, though, so it’s no good for the tub. Water-based lubricant is perfect for use with silicone toys. Check the ingredients of your lube to avoid glycerine if you’re prone to yeast infections.

Use water-based lubricant for:

  • Any kind of sex if you don’t mind renewing the lube from time to time
  • Any kind of sex if you have sensitive skin
  • Sex that includes silicone toys
Don’t use water-based lubricant for:
  • Sex in water
  • First-time anal sex

Hybrid lubricants combine the best qualities of silicone and water-based lubes. They’re silky smooth, not sticky, easily cleaned and long-lasting. They’re also toy-friendly and water-friendly. You may wonder why we don’t just say ‘get a hybrid lube and be done with it’. While hybrids are our go-to for all sorts of sexy fun, there’s still a place for super-long-lasting silicone, or the true toy-friendliness of water-based.

Oil-based lubes are not even on our list, to be honest. While they’re very long-lasting and so, so slippery, they’re no good for the delicate pH balance in the vagina and don’t play well with latex condoms. Not worth it, as far as we’re concerned.

When we choose a lube, we consider how long we expect our sexy play to go on, what kind of activities might be on the agenda, and our personal preference. A slightly thicker lube, like Aquaglide, is definitely better for anal play. Ceramic, steel and glass toys seem to take better to a smooth silicone lube like Pink. The important thing is to use a quality lubricant, with the right properties for your needs, and without any glycerine. We encourage you to try small sizes of various types of lube, to find the ones that you most like the feel of.

We haven’t delved into the fun of flavoured or sensation lubes here, as those are mostly based on either silicone or water-based lubes. Read about those (and pick a fun one to add a whole new dimension to date night) on our other blog articles.