You’re brand new to this idea of using sex toys. Or maybe you’ve thought about it for quite a while, even used some of the classic ‘things you can find around the house’. Yes, it’s perfectly possible to use fruits and vegetables for self-pleasuring, though we’d recommend a condom to prevent a messy incident.
And we’d say stay away from freshly baked apple pies. However, whether you’ve experimented a bit or are brand new to buying pleasure toys, we’ve got you covered with a few handy hints and our 2015 Top Sex Toys for Beginners.
First, do make sure you’re getting a good quality, body safe toy. You don’t need to go wildly fancy, but it’s worth a little extra to make sure you have a quality toy made of safe materials.
And that means no jelly toys. Look for toys in metal, glass or silicone, that are not porous and do not contain phthalates.
Not sure what kind of toy you want? Ask for help – at Matilda’s we have Happy Helpers available on email, phone and live chat to help you figure it out.
Start by deciding if you want an internal (penetrating) toy, or an external (stimulating) toy. Maybe you’re looking for something you can share with a partner, like a WeVibe Sync or a ShareVibe.
For the guys, there’s a wide range of toys for both solo and partner play. Remember, as someone new to the wonderful world of sex toys, you can explore what makes you feel good, and have lots of fun along the way. Start with what you know you like, but don’t be afraid to try something new. You may find yourself very pleasantly surprised... PS: Take a little time to chat with your partner and get both of you on board for bedroom bliss.
Dildos are inexpensive, versatile and always handy. Choose a length that gives you a bit to hold on to. Fun Factory's stub dildos will stand up easily, and suction to smooth surfaces. Plus the flat base makes them friendly for anal play too. We love the Boss for its classic shape and smooth silicone.
Ooh by Je Joue is a revolutionary new brand that personalises your pleasure. Start with a motor and then add the shapes that please you most. Available in individual components or Pleasure Kits, this range is the perfect way to build up your toy box on a budget.
Bullet vibrators are discreet and easy to use. They can target the clitoris for solo play or during foreplay or lovemaking, and creative lovers can use them on all sorts of erogenous zones to up your sexy vibes. The We Aim to Please bullet from the Fifty Shades range packs a lot of power into a small, battery powered vibe.
Good lubricant is an essential part of bedroom bliss. If you're using silicone toys, you'll want to make sure you have a quality water-based lubricant. Aquaglide is long-lasting and silicone-friendly, to keep things silky smooth.
Fleshlight is one of the best known brands for sex toys for guys, and their quality is renowned. The Pink Lady Original is the original, and still the most popular, design in this range. These masturbators are wonderful for guys who want to up their stamina, or just to add something different to your fun repertoire.
Even the most basic cock ring can add fun to the bedroom. With a vibrating cock ring, like the Je Joue Mio, there's added enjoyment for both of you. The ring can be worn to stimulate the testicles, perineum or clitoris, depending on position. As an added bonus, it can function as a bullet vibrator during foreplay, before being put on.
Body massagers and wands are the perfect bedroom partner. Apply them to aching muscles to relax at the end of a long day or use them to ease into an erotic massage. Their real talent, of course, is the powerful vibrations that produce long, rumbling orgasms. Run the Lelo Smart Wand over your body to get used to it, then hold it gently against your vulva to get the party started.
Couples toys are becoming more and more advanced, and the We Vibe Sync, with its remote control and phone app, is real new generation stuff. That doesn't make it hard to use, though. It's comfortable, can be worn during intercourse, and is easily controlled to deliver delicious vibrations to both partners.