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October 22, 2014

To Spank or Not to Spank

Pain and Pleasure!

Lots of people are into love taps, be it gentle swats or full blown, over-the-knee smacks.In fact, spanking is one of the oldest erotic practices in the history of sex, even the Kama Sutra goes into detail on how to properly wallop a partner during sex. After all, pain is one of the greatest aphrodisiacs.

Yet knowing when and how to administer a spontaneous sexy smack is a bit like flying a kite in a thunder storm. Before you begin spanking your partner, you need to find out if it's something they're into.

You can investigate by giving a casual little love tap during an innocent activity like cooking dinner or shopping. You'll quickly be able to tell if the idea of spanking is a turn-on to your partner by either a wary glance or the glittering excitement in their eyes.

Alternatively, if you know your partner enjoys dominant sex, then spanking is most likely on the menu. If you're still in the dark about whether spanking is an exhilarating or avoided option, you may need to ask your partner directly.

Whether it’s a kinky fetish or an attempt to spice up your sex life, spanking definitely has its perks. The bum is located near men and women's hot spots so a naughty manoeuvre like spanking is a great way awaken nerve endings and send ripples through that entire erogenous zone. Follow these tips for a successful spanking session:

How to Spank:

  • Warm up your hands
  • Position yourself so you don't hit your partner in the back or thigh (be especially careful of the tailbone)
  • Begin gently and alternate one cheek at a time – gradually increase intensity and pay attention to your partner's physical and verbal cues
  • Keep your hand tight and aim for the fleshy part of the bum
  • Administer erotic spanking to bare buttocks or while dressed normally
  • Practice spanking with or without other elements of bondage play

How to Get Spanked:

  • Position yourself over your partner's knee or prop your bottom up with a pillow. For women, the slapping sting will cause her to squirm, simultaneously resulting in light arousing fiction against her clitoris against the supporting knee, pillow, etc.
  • Give your partner verbal or physical cues as to whether they should deliver softer or harder spanks. It's also up to you to tell them when you've had enough.
  • Give your partner permission to experiment with common household items like a wooden spoon, a spatula, or a paddle hairbrush.
  • It's important to remember that no matter what the role play is for spanking over-the-knee foreplay or an addition raunchy sex, climax is the goal for both partners. Therefore, the actual spanks should be mixed with caresses, gentle rubbing and other consensual foreplay.
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