Anal sex is usually not the first thing that comes to mind when thinking of mutually pleasurable things to do with a partner. He may want to give it a try, but she’s not so sure… Contrary to many opinions, it can actually be an incredibly pleasurable experience for ANYONE if done right! Well, as the urban sex legend goes, guys want it because they've heard it's tighter than normal sex and they've seen it in porn, and girls occasionally give in as a bargaining chip/reward/very special birthday present. Plenty of women actually just love the feeling, full stop! Anyone can experiment with anal – and enjoy it. In fact, anal sex is the primary form of sex in some countries where birth control is not available to them. it’s not something that should be rushed into. If you’re a beginner, take it slow and sexy with some of our easy bottom play tips.
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We bet you’re wondering if it hurts? Well, this is where lube – water based lube, more specifically – comes into play. Lube is essential for comfortable (and safe) anal sex. For a good orgasm-inducing experience, the more lube the better – for him and for her. As we like to say, things get extra sexy when slippery.
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Condoms are also a non-negotiable. Although there is no risk of pregnancy during anal sex, STIs are still abundant. If you are in a monogamous relationship and frequently get tested, condoms can help to minimise clean up and the bacteria spread.
Most people require some feverish foreplay before vaginal penetration is smooth and saucy. It's no different with anal penetration. Take time to tickle around the outside of the rectum while going down on your partner. The more you engage in anal stimulation erotically, the more thrilling it will be to that part of the body over time.
The whole point of anal play is to keep it simple before working up to hot and heavy nights. Start with fingers, tongues or a sex toy designed for anal play. Despite its naughty name, the Dr Deep Anal Vibrator is a great toy to start playing with. Or, invest in a tempting anal plug to explore the different sensations. There shouldn't be any rapid-fire movement immediately. Vigorous jamming of fingers anywhere should not happen the instant you start experimenting. So much of sex is fast, especially in the eroticism of porn, but anal play has to be prepped for – it’s a build-up of sensations.
No, not all anal play needs to be done doggy style. There are a variety of intimate, steamy positions to try. It’s best to move around until you find one that makes you feel good and most satisfied! Here are a few positions to get you going:
Missionary Couples, adjust your missionary position for amazing anal sex. Add supporting cushions under her hips to create a better angle. Bend her legs at his chest or place them over his shoulders for an even more fulfilling sensation. From there, it’s all about the mood. With slow rhythm and the gentle massaging of each other’s bodies, it can be intimate and sensual. With restraints and dirty talk, your old favourite becomes your kinky new one.
Spooning There’s nothing quite as enjoyable as turning an early morning cuddle into slow sex. This position incorporates rear-entry, which works for many lovers – it’s a slower, more intimate experience. Close enough to kiss each other, your hands remain free to stimulate and touch all over.
The cowgirl This is one of the most highly-enjoyed sex positions by women because it lets her control the speed and depth of thrusting. Being on-top can be a great anal sex position, too. Place her legs on the mattress on either side of him and set the speed. He can use his hands to move as he cups her bottom and she can wrap her legs around him for extra support.
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It's not a dirty sex deed. The anus and the lower part of the rectum actually have very little goods in them, which means it tends to not be nearly as dirty as you think. Plus this should leave plenty of room for some dirty talking and even more pleasure!