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April 09, 2018

Coming too soon?

There are ways to prolong the pleasure

Premature ejaculation is a relatively common problem faced by men. According to a 2016 study done by Drug Discovery Today around 20 - 30% of men struggle with this often embarrassing condition. Premature ejaculation is indiscriminate when it comes to age - it can affect men in their 20's as well as men in their 60's. So, if this is something you are battling with - remember you are not alone! 

Get Your Head Around It

Understandably, premature ejaculation can cause emotional and psychological distress, and can impact negatively on self-esteem. A man's performance in the bedroom is often linked to his feelings of success and masculinity, so coming too soon can be difficult to deal with. The key to overcoming this issue is by talking about it. Chat to your partner and your doctor and take the steps required to fix the problem.

What is Premature Ejaculation?

Like erectile dysfunction, the causes of premature ejaculation are rooted in physical, emotional and psychological problems. Some studies have shown that hyperactive pelvic muscles and infected prostates can contribute to the condition.

However, it seems that, for the majority of men with premature ejaculation, the problem stems from psychological problems. This may have started with your first sexual experience, where you felt huge pressure to perform, and came too soon. Feelings of inadequacy have now manifested as performance anxiety, which impacts on each sexual encounter you have. 

Ways to Overcome Premature Ejaculation

The Squeeze Method

Stimulate your penis (or have your partner do it) until you feel you are close to orgasm. At the point of ejaculation you or your partner should squeeze your penis hard enough for you to slightly lose your erection. The goal? To teach you to become aware of the sensations leading up to orgasm, so that you can control and delay your orgasm on your own. 

The Stop Start Method

The Stop Start Method involved lots of practise! Yay! First off, get your partner to stimulate you until you are about to come. Then get your partner to stop until you regain control. Once you feel you are in control, your partner can continue again. Repeat about three times a week until you feel you have mastered this step. Then you can progress to using a lubricant (the wetness will make it more difficult to control your orgasms), and then to actual intercourse, where your partner is on top. Tell her to stop moving as soon as you feel you are losing control. Then re-start again. Once you are feeling like you are gaining more control, you can progress to the missionary position. 

The Flying Solo Method

Masturbating is a great way to practise controlling your orgasm. And this is hardly a difficult task! We are asking you to masturbate 3 times a week (got to put in the hours!) to really get to know your body and how it responds. 

Pay careful attention: how does it feel when you’re almost there? What does it feel like if you pause and let the sensation subside? 

A Fleshlight is a great way for you to practise control. It's the number 1 sex toy for men because of its ultra-realistic materials and lifelike exteriors. A Fleshlight replicates vaginal and oral sex and the sleeve's inner texture feels like the real thing. 

The Fleshlight Stamina Training Unit has been designed specifically to help men to experience premature ejaculation by improving their endurance. 

The inner sleeve's texture is made up of large bumps designed to provide intense pleasure. With enough practise, this can help prolong ejaculation. 

Fleshlight Stamina Training Unit

Fleshlight Stamina Training Unit
Practise prolonging ejaculations

Fulfilling Foreplay

Take the time during foreplay to explore each other’s bodies in a slow, sensual way. Focusing your thoughts on pleasuring her will take some of the spotlight off the “performance”. Also, schedule some sexy time that doesn't involve intercourse at all. Make it about her. The less nervous you are, the longer you’ll be able to last.

Put a Ring on it

Cock rings are great ways to extend play time. Just slip this toy over your semi erect penis, and enjoy the arousing feeling of tightness. Inhibiting the flow of blood away from your penis makes your erection harder and longer lasting. Get one with a bullet vibrator extension to stimulate her clitoris – then hang on for a fantastic ride.

Vibro Rabbit Ring from Malesation

Vibro Rabbit Ring from Malesation
A cock ring that also gives pleasure to her

Pelvic Workouts

Women aren’t the only ones with PC muscles. We’ve all stopped the flow when we get caught taking a leak in the wrong place... That same muscle controls your semen flow, and affects how straight your soldier stands. Try tightening that ‘pee flow’ muscle, and do a few reps every day. You and your partner will both feel the difference when you climax!

Change Position

When you’re working out the control issues, changing up your regular position may help. Once you’ve mastered controlling your ejaculation in these sexy scenarios, move on to try more advanced positions.

Missionary This may not be the most exciting but by starting with the basics, you’ll be able to maintain control. Make sure that she doesn’t raise her legs or you risk over excitement.

Cowgirl She does most of the work in this position. Take advantage of your relaxed state by concentrating on staying studly.

Spooning This is a relatively comfortable position so you can pay attention to self-control.

Work your Prostate Gland!

Remember, premature ejaculation can be cause by an enlarged and infected prostate gland. 

Prostates become enlarged due to a build up of semen, which causes inflammation, swelling and bacterial growth. It is not the most comfortable of conditions to have, and severely impacts on sexual ability.

This can be prevented by using a prostate massager, which stimulate a man’s prostate gland. Similar to a woman’s G-spot, the prostate is a walnut-sized semen storage gland, that when stimulated, can result in some pretty incredible and powerful orgasms. This type of orgasm is great for flushing out the prostate, and keeps you healthy and happy. It also lowers the risk of prostate cancer.

We'd recommend the Njoy Wand Probe and the Loki Prostate Massager. 

Loki Prostate Massager

Loki Prostate Massager
Stimulate your P-spot

Njoy Wand Probe

Njoy Wand Probe
One of the very best for P-spot stimulation

Takeaway

Premature ejaculation is a tough condition to deal with. But there are ways to improve - it just takes practise and dedication to the cause. Plus, don't forget to talk to your partner and get them on board with your attempts. A supportive, caring and understanding partner will help you lots in overcoming your performance anxiety. 



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