Coming too soon?
There Are Ways To Prolong The Pleasure
Premature ejaculation is a relatively common problem among men. According to a 2016 study by Drug Discovery Today, 20 - 30% of men suffer from this unwelcome condition. Premature ejaculation is indiscriminate as to its victims - it can affect men in their 20s up to and including those in their 60s. So, if you are undergoing this, you are not alone.
Get Your Head Around It
Understandably, premature ejaculation can cause emotional and psychological distress and can impact negatively on self-esteem. A man's rating of his success and masculinity often hinges on his performance in the bedroom, so coming too soon can be a dilemma. The key to overcoming this is to talk about it - with your partner and your GP - and take the remedying steps one at a time.
What is Premature Ejaculation?
Like erectile dysfunction, the causes of premature ejaculation are rooted in physical, emotional and psychological problems. Some studies show that hyperactive pelvic muscles and infected prostates can also contribute to this condition.
However, it seems the uppermost cause of premature ejaculation is the mind. This could have begun with your first sexual experience when you felt tremendous pressure to perform, and the anxiety caused you to come too soon. Feelings of inadequacy are labelled Performance Anxiety and could impact every subsequent sexual encounter you have.
Ways to Overcome Premature Ejaculation
The Squeeze Method
Stimulate your penis (or have your partner do it) until you feel you are close to orgasm. At the very point before ejaculation, you or your partner should squeeze your penis just enough for you to lose your erection slightly. Why? To make you aware of the sensations leading up to orgasm, to enable you to control and delay your orgasm yourself.
The Stop-Start Method
The Stop-Start Method involves a bit of fun. Have your partner stimulate you until you are about to come. Then, get them to stop until you have regained control. Once you have, your partner can continue. Do this a few times until it is not fair any more! Repeat about three times a week until you feel you have mastered this aspect of control. To progress to the next level, use a lubricant (where the added slickness wickedly teases the timing of your orgasms), and, to the next step - actual intercourse with your partner on top. Ask her to stop wriggling as soon as you feel you're losing control. When you have recovered, ask her to restart. Once you think you are in control at this level, you can progress to the most challenging of all - the missionary position. Keep practising these exercises until you are a master of your destiny.
The Flying Solo Method
Masturbating is an excellennt way to conquer your orgasms. Try exciting yourself and stopping, etc., three times a week to get to know your body and its extents and limits. Notice how it feels when you are almost there. Then, when you pause and subside.
A Fleshlight toy is another ideal way to practise control. It's the world's top-scoring sex toy for men because of its ultra-realistic materials and lifelike exteriors and feel. A Fleshlight replicates vaginal- and oral sex, and the sleeve's inner texture is extraordinarily "real".
The Fleshlight Stamina Training Unit was explicitly designed to aid those with unwelcome premature ejaculation by improving their endurance.
The texture of the inner sleeve is peppered with large bumps to provide intense pleasure. With enough of this challenging practice, you can master the art of choosing your time.
Fleshlight Stamina Training Unit
Practise prolonging ejaculations
Fulfilling Foreplay
Take the time during foreplay to explore each other’s bodies slowly and sensually. Focus your thoughts on pleasuring her to divert the spotlight from your performance. A good trick is to schedule some sexy time that doesn't involve intercourse at all. Make it about her so that you focus less on yourself and the longer you can last.
Put a Ring on it
Cock rings are great ways to extend play time. Just slip this toy over your semi-erect penis, and enjoy the arousing tightness. Stemming the flow of blood to your penis causes your hard erection to last longer. Perhaps buy one with a bullet vibrator extension to stimulate her clitoris – so both of you receive pleasure in equal measure.
Happy Rabbit Mini Love Ring
A cock ring that also gives pleasure to her
Pelvic Workouts
Women are not the only ones with Pelvic floor muscles. That same muscle in a male controls his semen flow and affects the erectness of his soldier. Try spasmodically clenching that ‘pee flow’ muscle, and repeat a few reps daily. Both you and your partner will feel the difference in your coupling.
Change Position
Deviating from your regular position may also help. Once you are master of your ejaculation, move on to more advanced positions for more advanced mastery of your body.
Missionary Position. This may not be the most exciting, but it's a start in maintaining self-control. Tip: Be sure she does not raise her legs, as you could risk over-excitement in both parties!
Cowgirl Position. She is on top and does most of the work. Take advantage of your relaxed state by concentrating on her mastery and your staying sturdy.
Spooning Position. This is relatively comfortable, allowing you to pay attention to your self-control.
Work your Prostate Gland
An enlarged and infected prostate gland can also cause premature ejaculation.
Prostates become enlarged due to a build-up of semen, causing inflammation, swelling and infection. It is very uncomfortable and severely impacts sexual ability.
It can be prevented, however, by using a prostate massager, which stimulates the gland. Similar to a woman’s G-Spot, the prostate is a walnut-sized semen-storage gland that, when stimulated, can result in galvanising orgasms. This magnitude of orgasm is highly successful in flushing out the prostate and lowering the risk of prostate cancer.
We readily recommend the Njoy Wand Probe and the Loki Prostate Massager.
Loki Prostate Massager
Stimulate your P-Spot
Takeaway
Premature ejaculation is almost always a challenge. But, as you now see, there are ways to combat it - requiring mere practice and dedication. You could also talk to your partner and get them on board with your programme. A supportive and understanding partner works wonders in overcoming Performance Anxiety.
