Intermediate BDSM Play: Take It to the Next Level

Ok, so you’ve been playing around with some domination and submission for a while, and you’ve been enjoying exploring the baby steps of BDSM.

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By Team Matilda'sAug 17, 2017

BDSM & Bondage Ideas, Tips and Tricks

Ok, so you’ve been playing around with some domination and submission for a while, and you’ve been enjoying exploring the baby steps of BDSM for beginners. But now it’s time to get a little more serious… it’s time to step out of the restraints and take your BDSM fantasies to the next level. We’re going to just jump right into bed with you on this one. Let’s dive into intermediate BDSM.

So you want to take it up a notch?

Some want to explore domination only to a small degree and keep it confined to the bedroom - and that’s okay. Others want to live the lifestyle 24/7 and completely ‘own’ or control their partner. It’s all about your comfort levels and what turns you on most. But don’t be afraid to explore a little deeper and push your pleasure limits. You never know if you may just like it!

But with all fantasies, we need a hint of reality in the mix - and that means research! If you're one of those people who throw away the directions and tries to build the bookshelf on intuition alone, BDSM is maybe not the best type of play for you. BDSM education is about how to pump up the ecstasy feelings, the orgasms and the desires while minimising the risk. How to do all the things you dream about doing and to do them safely. So before you play around with some of the trickier tools, you need to learn how to do so safely. Even a rope or a whip can be dangerous if you don't know how to handle it…

Position these ropes in a way to constantly stimulate the breasts or genitals whenever they move, so they're always reminded they're there.

Bondage and Intermediate BDSM

A good way to take your next steps into the intermediate BDSM world is through bondage. You may have already tried some light restraints, with handcuffs or silk ties, but now it’s about to get serious! Take control of your playmate by binding them by their hair - weave or braid rope through their luscious locks - to hold the head in whatever position you like. How does tying up your lucky lover with a rope harness sound? Let them feel the ropes on their skin, but let their bodies move easily. Position these ropes in a way to constantly stimulate the breasts or genitals whenever they move, so they're always reminded they're there.

Intermediate BDSM can be sensual, it can be slow and it can be ultra sultry. It’s all up to what you want (and what you want to be done to you!) Open the door to erotic adventures with a fully adjustable love swing.

Swings are a gravity defying way to keep the submissive open to the experience, while the dominant gets a sexy view of their submissive hoisted high up in the air. This a type of suspension bondage without the major DIY ceiling adjustments. Looking to intensify your playtime with something a little more restrictive, where the dominant has full control of the pleasure?

Experiment with a cock cage and bring your man to his knees while you handle his thrill… he’ll be bursting for the climax. Bondage may not be your cup of kink, but then it’s time to try another goose bump inducing type of BDSM - and we’ve got something up our sleeves!

A little pain for your pleasure

It’s important to establish your pain threshold when your pain is still considered pleasurable! Once you’ve found just how you like it kinky toys can make their way into the bedroom. They do say that pain is the greatest aphrodisiac. Start off with something like the classic Wheel of Tease - it can take your partner pleasure to an exciting new level of intimacy. Lightly stroke, tease and titillate or add pressure for a more intermediate BDSM inspired encounter. Like the feeling? Why not add some pressure to your sexual organs.

Luxurious clit clips are elegant and erotic all together! These clips are clit-friendly fashion statements that enhance your satisfaction during kink sessions. Magnets keep these clips secure as they gently squeeze the clitoris - it’s pure pulsating pleasure. Other toys to give a try include a flogger to tickle, tease and torment, and some solid whippings for those naughty nights - leave the cane for once you’ve experienced a little more in this BDSM world. Candle wax is another way to play. It seems a bit scary at first but isn't that painful, and is an exciting way to introduce pain into your enjoyment. Opt for candles that are meant to be melted and poured over the body. This heat will create a desire that is hard to tame. And if you want to go au’ naturel, without toys, use your body parts to create sensations like no other. From biting and hair pulling to fisting and anal play, there are so many things you can experiment with when you are letting go of your inhibitions in the bedroom - or should we say play room?

This heat will create a desire that is hard to tame. And if you want to go au’ naturel, without toys, use your body parts to create sensations like no other.

Pace yourself

Harder and faster doesn’t always mean better, even in the kinky world of intermediate BDSM. You must be willing to go painstakingly slow - so slow that even your partner can’t stand it. Build up this kind of energy for deep, erotic play that will have you coming back for more! Think of the more intense strokes as peaks of the experience, rather than blasting the scene with the same loud note. The feather is sometimes mightier than the flogger, it’s all about how you use it…

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