BDSM: Taking it to the next Level

Intermediate BDSM Play: Take It to the Next Level

Ok, so you’ve been playing around with some domination and submission for a while, and you’ve been enjoying exploring the baby steps of BDSM.

Intermediate BDSM

BDSM & Bondage Ideas, Tips and Tricks

You have been trying out Domination and Submission, and you’ve enjoyed the baby steps of BDSM for Beginners. But now it’s time to get a little more serious -  to step out of the restraints and take your BDSM fantasies to the next level. So, let’s dive into Intermediate BDSM... 

Want to take it up a notch?

Some want to explore domination to a small degree only and keep it confined to the bedroom. Others, however, want to live this lifestyle outside the bedroom and entirely ‘own’ their partners. It’s all about your comfort levels and what turns you both on most. It is up to you to investigate and set the boundaries at pre-agreed limits.

As with all fantasies, we need to be realistic for a moment and do a little research.  BDSM education is about how to pump up the ecstasy, the orgasms and the desires whilst minimising the risk. So before you test some of the trickier tools, you need to know about safety. Even a rope restraint or a whip can be dangerous if you don't know how to handle it.

Position these ropes to stimulate the breasts or genitals whenever the person moves so they're continually reminded they are there.

Bondage + Intermediate BDSM

An excellent way to take your next steps into Intermediate BDSM is through bondage. You may have already tried light restraints, such as handcuffs or silk ties, but now it’s about to get serious! Take control of your playmate by binding them by their hair - weave or braid rope through their luscious locks - to hold the head in whatever position you like. How about tying up your lucky lover with a rope harness? Let them feel the ropes on their skin, but let their bodies move relatively easily in this restraint. Position the ropes to stimulate the breasts or genitals whenever the person moves so they're continually reminded they are there.

Intermediate BDSM can be sensual, it can be slow, and it can be ultra-sultry. It’s all up to what you want. Open the door to more erotic adventures with a fully adjustable love swing. Swings are a gravity-defying method of keeping the Submissive open to the experience while the Dominant gets a sexy view of their Sub hoisted high in the air. This is a variation of suspension bondage without needing major DIY ceiling adjustments.

Are you looking to intensify your playtime with something a little more restrictive, where the Dominant has full control of the pleasure? Experiment with a cock cage and bring your man to his knees while you handle his thrill. Bondage may not be your cup of kink, so let us move on to the next trick: 

A Little Pain for Your Pleasure

Establishing your pain threshold while your pain is still pleasurable is essential. Once you’ve found your level, kinky toys can make an entrance. They say that pain is the greatest aphrodisiac. Start off with something like the classic Wheel of Tease and see it take your partner's pleasure to an exciting new altitude of intimacy. Lightly stroke, tease, and titillate or add pressure for a more inspired encounter. 

Luxurious clit clips are elegant and erotic at the same time. These clips are clit- and nipple-friendly gems that enhance your satisfaction during kink. Magnets keep these clips secure as they gently squeeze the clitoris - what pure pulsating pleasure! Other toys include a flogger to tickle, tease, whip and torment. Candle wax is another way to play. It seems a bit iffy at first, but not too painful and is an exciting way to introduce pain into your escapades. Opt for candles that are meant to be melted and poured over the body. And if you want to go au naturel, without toys, use your body parts to create sensations like no other. From biting and hair pulling to fisting and anal play, there are many ways you can experiment in your play times. 

This heat will create a desire that is hard to tame. And if you want to go au’ naturel, without toys, use your body parts to create sensations like no other.

Pace yourself

Harder and faster doesn’t always mean better, even in the kinky world of intermediate BDSM. You must be willing to go slowly - so slowly that not even your partner can stand it. Build up this kind of energy for the deep, erotic play you crave. Think of the more intense strokes as peaks of the experience, but remember: the feather is sometimes mightier than the flogger; it’s all about how you use it.

Here are a few of our BDSM toys to start you off on your new chapter of thrill:

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