Male orgasm is notoriously a lot quieter than it is for women. Even in the movies, the lady is belting out a chorus of Ooohs and Aaaahs and OhOhhhhOHHHHs, while the guy tends to kind of gently grunt and that’s the money shot. Well, we aren’t having any of it. We want everyone making a noise about sex; because great sex is definitely worth shouting about.
Now, don’t get us wrong. Please do not start out your sesh with a lot of loud ‘Oh Yeah Baby’. That’s just confusing. We do like some murmurs of appreciation, though, especially when the regular t-shirt is removed to reveal a special new piece of lingerie. Moving on to a little ‘dirty talk’ when things are hotting up is always welcome.
As a bonus, you can use dirty talk to check in with your partner and make sure everything is moving at a pace (and to a place) that she’s happy with. “Does that feel good? Do you want me to do that some more?” confirms that things are going well AND sounds super-sexy to our already warmed-up ears.
Now here’s a secret and important piece of info for you: a lot, a surprisingly large lot, of women are uncomfortable about having their man perform oral sex on them. “Why?” you may ask. We asked the same. Most of the time, it’s because women have been taught that ‘down there’ is dirty, smelly, just somehow gross. “Oh no no no,” we hear you shout, “that is plain wrong!” We’re with you, and that is why we’re here to tell you that the best time to make some happy noises during sexytime is when you are giving a lady a little labial loving. (NB: don’t get toooo carried away... your partner will want to know you’re paying attention to her responses and not just concentrating on how much fun you’re having down there.)
Male Orgasm: Let's Hear It
So, let’s recap. Start out with murmurs of pleasure and appreciation; add in a bit of whispered or softly spoken dirty talk; express your joy at her yummy bits... And finally, if and when you orgasm, get vocal in the leadup, and then let rip with your joy to the world. If your partner is reciprocating in the oral department, she’ll truly appreciate the heads up that things are about to get satisfyingly messy. And believe us: if she’s just on the edge herself, then your moans and shouts of pleasure have the same effect of tipping her over it as hers do for you.
If you’re a little shy, or fear your O shout is more like a T-Rex roar that will frighten her off, have a couple of solo tries at that male orgasm with vocal accompaniment. We reckon you’ll enjoy it way more than you expect.
