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The Ultimate Sex Toy Starter Guide

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Matilda’s Presents: The Ultimate Sex Toy Starter Guide

If you’re new to sex toys, we’ve got a treat in store for you. Sex should be fun. It’s play time, after all… and play time needs toys.

Maybe you’ve never even considered using a sex toy, let alone buying one for yourself.

Maybe you’re curious, but you’re not sure where to start.

Perhaps you’ve got ol’ faithful safely tucked in the drawer of your bedside table, but you’d like to try something new. The question is, what will it be?

There’s never just one route that leads us to the purchase of our first toy. There are as many reasons for buying sex toys as there are buyers … and then some.

The main thing is: they’re fun!

So, if you’re a sex toy newbie and you have no idea where to start when it comes to buying your first sex toys (or expanding your collection), pour yourself a glass of wine, relax, and let us lead you to a land of pleasure and adventure.

If this is more of an ‘us’ thing than a ‘me’ thing…

Chat to your partner about what they’d feel comfortable with before you buy. Some people might not be ready for a change to their bedroom routine. Get a feel for what they’d like before making a unilateral decision about where to start.

Have you ever discussed introducing toys or sexy lingerie to your sex life? Lingerie can be a great place to start, since we all love to look lovely, or (and?) to look at lovely things.

It can be helpful to browse through a catalogue together, to get an idea of what’s available.

On the other hand, if it’s a surprise…

Then start with something that you feel will suit your partner’s ‘bedroom personality.’ Is he (or she) playful? Shy? Traditional? Extrovert? Adventurous?

Choose a toy that matches their bedroom mood, and enjoy unwrapping it together.

If you’re buying for her…

When buying your lady love her first sex toy, there are some useful question you can consider that will help us help you choose the toy most likely to hit the spot. For instance, when you’re having vanilla sex (yes. I know. No one is having vanilla sex. Humour me for a moment …), does she prefer internal or external stimulation? What’s the most effective way to bring her to climax? Has she used toys before? Which did she prefer? Armed with the answers to these questions, give us a call (0861 227 655) and we’ll help you choose the best starter sex toy for her.

A great place to start is Mimi Soft’s clitoral vibrator. It’s silicone tip creates a cushioned feel that transfers vibrations even more effectively … making it all about her. Purrfect.

If you’re buying for him…

Are you thinking about getting him something you can play with together? Or a sex toy just for him to enjoy in his own time? As always, we’re here to help, so give us a shout and we’ll guide to you to the best pick. Some popular starter sex toys for men include:

  • Cock rings
  • Sleeves, and
  • Masturbators
25 Days of Sex

Buying for both…

Couples toys are always a winner because they deliver all the enjoyment of exploring toys in the bedroom, with extra stimulation for her. If you’re feeling a little extra adventurous, remote-control toys can also add to the fun.

For example, the 25 Days of Sex is a pleasure kit designed to spice up your entire month! Each day holds a new surprise, making bed time a whole lot of fun.

Playing it safe…

Sex toys can be a great addition to couple sex play. They make the one-man-band action a whole lotta fun, too. (Or one-woman-band action, of course ;))

Some of our favourite sex toys for newbies are:

Safety first

Pjur We-Vibe Cleaner 100ml

Sex toys are designed for sex; purpose-made for pleasure. Even so, it never hurts to be aware of the basic rules of hygiene and safety. Always wash your hands before you play. Always wash your toys (thoroughly) when you’re done. Make sure you choose the right sex toy cleaner for your toy, to avoid damaging the toy or allowing the build-up of harmful bacteria.

System Jo Premium | Silicone Lubricant

Sex toys, unlike your own sexual organs, are not self-lubricating, so be sure to pick the right lube for your toys when you choose them.

(And I’m sure you know that using sex toys with a partner who has an STD does not reduce your chances of getting that STD yourself.)