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How to Choose a Sex Toy for Your Partner

How to Choose a Sex Toy for Your Partner

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The Gift That Keeps On Giving!

You’ve decided to surprise your lover with a sex toy! However, you’ve never ventured down this avenue before. How do you know what would make them happy versus what would make them cringe? The following tips will help you pick an erotic present that will get a generous show of gratification – if you know what we mean!

What Does Your Lover Love?

Chances are if you’re at the point where you’re buying your partner a sex toy as a gift, you’ll have some idea of what gets them going. Boys, does clitoral stimulation drive your woman wild? Or is she more of a G-spot kind of gal? Ladies, does your guy like prostate stimulation? Or does he prefer to have his family jewels played with?

Once you can narrow down what gets your partner all hot and bothered, you’ll have a better time choosing something that they enjoy. If you’ve never tried anal sex, chances are giving anal beads as a present will be a bit much. If she’s all sugar and spice and all things nice, you should probably steer clear of black leather handcuffs.

Sharing is Caring

Do you want it to be all about them or are you secretly hoping to get in on a little of the action? There are plenty of couples' toys that can make the gift of giving truly enjoyable. Try a vibrator that snuggles in between you during lovemaking. Cock rings are a small but significant addition to any bedroom fun.

If you really are as selfless as you say, there are plenty of options for solo pleasuring for both men and women. If your man is a beer drinker, grab him a funky beer can Fleshlight. If your lady likes to spend a very long time in bubble baths, treat her to a vibrating Duckie - there’s more to that beak than meets the eye…

Practicalities to Consider (Like Price Range)

There are good surprises and there are bad surprises. A good surprise is you giving your special someone a sexy gift. A bad surprise is your partner checking the bank statement only to see that you’ve squandered the month’s grocery budget on a sex toy.

While we highly recommend choosing a high quality sex toy, this is something that you need to research. If you want to give her the best of the best then realize that luxury toys can cost a pretty penny and save accordingly. If you’re just looking for something fun to put a smile on their face, then a less expensive novelty toy might do the trick. Figure out what you’re trying to say with your gift and go from there.

Style Says It All

Is your partner loud and outgoing with a brilliant sense of humour? If so, a Man Eater masturbator might rock his world. Maybe your partner is the artsy type. Impress them with a stunning hand blown glass dildo. Or perhaps they are quiet and reserved – a little shy when it comes to the topic of sex- so dazzle them with a super discreet vibrator. For those that prefer backdoor action there are an array of anal toys like probes, beads and stimulators. If domination is the flavour of the day, give your lover some latex lingerie or some fluffy cuffs to play with.

Be Kind

Picking a toy for your partner should be a joy! It’s a chance to show them how well you know them and their deepest desires. Don’t despair though if their reaction isn’t as you expected. Receiving a naughty gift can be quite the surprise! Give it a minute before you start explaining all of the super cool features. Whatever you choose, don’t forget to complete the package with necessities like lube and toy cleaner. You’ll get extra points for paying attention to the details.

This article was first published for All4Women.co.za