G-Spot or Clitoral: How to Share Your Orgasm Preference with Your Partner

Help Your Partner Give You the Pleasure You Crave!

Do you revel in the deep intensity of a G-spot orgasm or do you prefer the mind-blowing sensations of clitoral climax? Does your partner know which kind of orgasm you prefer? Are you using specially designed G-spot vibrators or clitoral sex toys to discover these delicious sensations? Getting to know your body better has all kinds of advantages, from gaining an understanding of what makes you tick to building intimacy with your partner. Learning how to share your needs and desires with your lover is an important part of being able to achieve the orgasms that make you go OOOOOOOO.

Naughty 101

Most modern day men recognize that women have two sweet spots. Whether or not guys know where or what the spots are may be another question altogether. Educating your dude on what goes on down below can be a touchy task though. The best way to arouse his curiosity is carefully and with the utmost sensitivity. Try forwarding an article on how you can pleasure each other or casually leave your favourite magazine open to an informative page so you don’t completely demoralize him by boasting your endless amounts of sexual knowledge. When you feel like he’s got the basics, suggest introducing a few sex toys into your foreplay to encourage more adventurous exploration into these areas.

Gently Guide Your Guy

When you’re engaging in some hanky panky, gently guide your dude’s hands (or member) where you want them to be. Chances are if you direct him to the right region, he’ll get the clue. Also, many men find it a turn on when women initiate new positions so don’t be afraid to situate yourself for maximum clitoral or G-spot stimulation.

Show & Tell

Fulfil his fantasies and your needs all in one go! There’s no better way to teach a guy than show and tell. First, show him exactly where feels good with his fingers. When he knows where your pleasure-zones are, take a hold of your favourite G-spot vibrator or clitoral massager and give him an in depth demonstration. After all, a picture is worth a thousand words! He’ll be speechless and love every minute…

Give Positive Reinforcement

Men’s egos are more fragile than your Gran’s crystal collection. Even if he doesn’t know where he’s going or what he’s doing, insulting a man’s skills is the worst thing you can do. If he feels insecure or inadequate he’ll never want to explore. Praise him when he does stuff you like and then delicately direct him in the direction that you need. Try not to show disappointment if he can’t hit your special spot successfully the first time and make sure he knows when he succeeds. Practice makes perfect!

Patience Patience Patience

Finding the perfect place for clitoral or especially G-spot stimulation can require some patience whether you’re exploring by yourself or with your partner. Remember that it may take your man some time to learn your anatomy. Give him credit for trying by rewarding his efforts with a favour you know he’ll love!

This article was first published for All4Women.co.za