Foreplay: It Takes Two!

Foreplay is Functional & Fun!

Foreplay was once regarded as nothing more than a few extraneous steps that were merely a means to an end – the end being the act of intercourse. Nothing could be further from the truth. Foreplay is an integral part of any sexual union. It is a means of increasing intimacy between partners and it heightens sexual satisfaction in both men and women.

Foreplay is essential for preparing the body for sex. For females, there is a scientific process that occurs during foreplay where by the uterus actually contracts to make room for penetration. This is known as vaginal tenting and without this process sex can sometimes become uncomfortable. Foreplay allows the female body sufficient time to become stimulated and well lubricated - the first outward sign that a female is ready for comfortable penetration.

For men, it is assumed that foreplay is unnecessary and that they are rearing to go in this department. While this may be true at times, mens’ emotions are often softer than their members. Many men crave the same security and comfort that women do even if it’s not what society dictates.

Establishing intimacy and trust via foreplay leads to less pressure for a man and hence less room for stage freight or feelings of inadequacy during sex. Plus, the anticipation will get him harder and more deeply involved in lovemaking- leading to more satisfaction on both ends!

Foreplay Tips & Tricks

When partners realise the delectable treats that await them if they practice some patience- foreplay will become a regular and most enjoyed practice!

Oral Sex. Foreplay needn’t be hard work – it also grants you plenty of fun in the bedroom! Let your partner stimulate your penis to enhance and maintain your erection. Tease and titillate and your turn will come...

Engage in Mutual Masturbation. Let him watch as you touch and explore your own body. This is a sure-fire way to ‘teach “your partner how you really like to be pleasured. Introduce some sex toys into the mix and stimulate his erogenous zones with a vibrator – these sexy gadgets are very versatile and can often be used for external arousal along with internal stimulation (hint: tickle his testicles with the tip of a vibe for a new sensation).

Use Lubes. Lubricants are a brilliant way of prepping your body for penetration. There are many top quality sex lubes on the market that are completely body safe. They also come in a variety of delicious flavours. This is great for women who may not be overly into oral sex – a little chocolate flavoured treat can work wonders at encouraging you!

Even if lube isn’t a necessity it can be a fun way to experience new sensual sensations. Experimenting with a warming or tingling lubricate can spark curiosity and re-kindle intimacy.

The Mind is a Terrible Thing to Waste. Foreplay doesn’t always need to start out physically. The brain is one of the largest sex organs in the body. Arouse your lover with a trail of secret notes, text a tempting offer or email an erotic photo of a new position. By the time you reach your partner, your mind will be so lubed with thrilling ideas that physical foreplay will be nothing but pleasure.

Titillating Tantra. For those who are into the spiritual side of things, there is a belief in tantra that female sexual awakening occurs in the breasts. I think you can guess where it happens for the guys. It’s all part of the negative-positive, ying-yang philosophy. So, while wet n’wild sex may be the goal, giving some attention to the twins first will have very beneficial effects.

This article was first published for All4Women.co.za