5 Key Things to ALWAYS Remember About Sex

Everyone experiences sex differently. For some it’s about romance and connecting, for others a wham bam, thank you m’am is adequate. Whatever your style or preferences are though, there are a few key things that can make the difference between an ordinary and an absolutely orgasmic sex life.

Serious Sex Sucks

Sex should be fun, intimate and satisfying. Trying something silly is a huge turn on. Laughing is the same type of release as sex so it makes sense that the two should go hand in hand. To keep things light, reserve one night a week to play a sexy adult board game. Or impose a raunchy relay race to the bedroom. The joke will be on you if you take sex too seriously!

Compliments – Keep ‘Em Coming

Let your partner know what they do right and they’ll be inspired to continue pleasing you. By communicating what you love sharing with them, their self-esteem will enjoy a boost along with their desire to adventure and explore with you.

Confidence is a Turn On

Nobody is perfect and we all have days when we feel less than beautiful. However, obsessing over everything that’s wrong with our bodies doesn’t really do much except kill the mood. While it’s natural to feel a little self conscious or shy when it comes to sex, overcoming your inhibitions can be very rewarding. Being confident makes other people – including your partner – feel comfortable and relaxed. When both parties feel free to let go, the most amazing things can happen!

Different is Better

Routine is the route of all boredom in the bedroom. Change locations, change sex toys, change positions. Do anything you need to do to keep things exciting and fresh. Maybe you always do it in the bedroom – try getting kinky in the kitchen instead. Surprise your partner by trading in your trusty dildo for a clitoral vibrator. Or experiment with anal beads, a cock ring or a prostate massager. If he’s always on top, let the lady take the reins. New sensations will keep you and your partner satisfied.

If at First You Don’t Succeed...

Try, try and try again. So you went venturing for the male G-spot and struck out. Are you going to give up? Not so fast! Different bodies mean different anatomy. Perhaps she pushed you away when you tried to go down south. Is that the end of oral exploration? Let’s hope not. Maybe she didn’t feel appropriately groomed or perhaps your technique doesn’t suit her. If you’re genuinely interested in pleasuring your partner, you’ll give it another shot. Ask them for guidance, read some articles and experiment with different techniques. If it becomes clear that something just isn’t working then let it go though – as they say, different strokes for different folks!

This article was first published for All4Women.co.za