We noticed two polls on Twitter recently. As a rule, we are not interested in people’s attitudes towards and experiences of anal sex, which is what these polls were about. However, because this topic is indirectly related to Matilda's goal of improving people's sex lives, we sat up and took note.
One poll was for men, and another for women, and the question was:
Have you ever partaken in anal sex?
There were three possible answers from which to choose:
- Yes – more giving
- Yes – more taking
- No
For the men, the results were 39% (giving), 12% (taking) and 49% (no).
For the women: 7% (giving), 42% (taking) and 51% (no).
This was not an in-depth poll, and many other variables might not have been considered, but those results do seem to broadly stack up to a 40:10:50 ratio.
It is that 10% that draws our attention. Of course, some of the 12% of men who ticked “more taking” may be in homosexual relationships (there was no discernment on sexuality). Still, the 7% of women who ticked “more giving” was surprisingly higher than expected.
Due to the 'limitations' of a woman's anatomy for this "giving", there had to have been a degree of forethought for that 7% to have occurred. We are talking strap-on sex (role reversal of the ‘traditional’ anal scenario): Pegging – the female penetration of the male with a dildo. And it appears to be becoming ever more popular.
So, why would you want to try pegging?
For the male, there’s the potential stimulation of the 'P-Spot’, the gentleman’s equivalent of the female ‘G-Spot’. The P-Spot is named after the Prostate, the muscular gland which surrounds the urethra and produces most of his semen. Much like the G-Spot in some women, for some men, stimulation of the prostate can result in cataclysmic orgasms. In addition, the feeling of vulnerability from the role reversal is often a big turn-on for some men.
Many women report enjoying the shift in the power dynamics and comment on how intimate pegging can be due to the trust placed in them by their partners. It is also a learning experience, as the dominant partner (she) takes hints and cues from the man's reactions and responds accordingly. For her, there's something very stimulating about being in control of the sexual event, especially if she is not usually in that role.
Pegging is no reflection of sexuality. At the end of the day, if pegging (or anything else) is something you and your partner want to try, it is nobody’s business but yours. If it turns you both on and you mutually agree, do what makes you happy.
There is a range of different strap-ons available just for pegging. If you’re new to it, perhaps start small with a beginner's kit before moving to the larger dildos.
Whichever you choose, always remember the unwritten rules for anal play: lots of communication and lots (and lots) of lube.
